The Road to Your Destiny Goes Through the Valley of Pain

Some years ago, I was a Ph.D. student in Romania and barely making ends meet every month, but I had a dream for my life: to travel on two expeditions to the North and the South Pole. I didn’t have any money, but after one year of thinking and planning and working day and night, I made my dream a reality.

On the vessel sailing South, there was a young and beautiful girl in her early twenties, who was traveling with her mom to the South Pole. I never talked to her, and although we were living the same adventure, for a long time after the expedition, one thought poisoned my peace of mind from time to time: “I worked hard for one year, I had to struggle over every little detail of this expedition, to get what this girl just bought with her mom’s money. What for me was the greatest dream of my life, for her was just a holiday available at the tips of her mom’s bank account.” The thought brought suffering, and I let it go after a while.

In the Bible, Luke 7:41 – 47, Jesus tells Simon the following story:

“Two people owed money to a certain moneylender. One owed him five hundred denarii, and the other fifty.

Neither of them had the money to pay him back, so he forgave the debts of both. Now which of them will love him more?” asked Jesus. “I suppose the one who had the bigger debt forgiven” Simon replied.

“You have judged correctly,” Jesus said. “Whoever has been forgiven little, loves little.”

I returned home from my expeditions, and started teaching people how to make their dreams a reality even if they start with nothing. I left my corporate job, put my Ph.D. degree in a bubble-wrap in the closet, made The Amazing You film, and begun a new journey in life: to empower people to return to God, to listen to the calling of their hearts, and fulfill their destiny. My life’s purpose grew from my early success of traveling to the North and the South Pole. Had I failed with my dream of going to the end of the world, nothing of what I am doing today would have been possible. Years later I realized I had been a fool to be jealous and envious on the girl who was traveling with me to the South Pole. I am now grateful for the battle, and for the holy gift I had been given: to help others live their truth, make their dreams a reality, and fulfill their destiny.

Live your truth, set free the power of love and make your dreams a reality.

I am now grateful for the battle,

and for the holy gift

I had been given:

to help others live their truth,

make their dreams a reality,

and fulfill their destiny.

Another way of reading Jesus’s words is: “He who has little problems, has little love. He who had huge problems and solved them, shows giant love because he understands the struggle, the fears and the battle, and won’t have others live through the same pain.” You who are now battling your own demons and carrying your own fight, you have a greater calling. People who are most committed to solve a problem are the ones who’ve gone through that problem, have battled the demons, killed the dragon, and returned to help others heal, succeed, win, or just go through life without bearing the same pain. If you have problems, you are called to greatness, to learn faith, to rise and grow and return to God. You can only grow against resistance .

In fairy tales, the youngest son of the emperor stood up against the dragon.

In the Old Testament, David stood up against the giant Goliath.

Mahatma Gandhi, a frail Indian, stood up against the British government.

Martin Luther Kind stood up against racism in America.

Jesus stood up against death.

The bigger the problem, the bigger the calling,

The bigger the calling, the bigger the destiny.

The bigger the destiny, the bigger the person you will become.


Your friend,
Dr. Dragos

The story of my expeditions is in my book Sleepers.

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